Weddings & Unions

Engagement: The Parents’ Perspective


Our deep wish is for our children to find happiness as adults – including a loving partner. Seeing our children get engaged, their next doorway in life, can be the fulfillment of a dream.

In Jewish history, many parents selected their children’s spouses and entered betrothal contracts with conditions (tenaim) as first steps toward the later marriage contract (ketubah) and wedding canopy (chuppah). Today, most couples find each other and plan their own weddings. As children get engaged, modern Jewish parents still can honor and bless their children – and their children’s life partners – in this poignant moment of becoming, letting go and making space for a growing family.